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Working at moving out, Part 2

February 16, 2015
by Kathleen Mears
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Editors note: See part 1 here.

In Ohio, Medicaid will provide assistance to nursing home residents who move into an apartment or house. Mindy and CG could get help with initial expenses such as furniture, utilities deposits and the first month's rent. They can also get homecare aides to assist them. My only concern is the turnover that can occur with homecare providers. From personal experience I know that constantly changing care providers can wreak havoc on your life.

Mindy and CG assist and look out for other residents here. Specifically, Mindy checks with one resident about his library books and she regularly chats with another resident who feels lost here.

Mindy and CG would like to get married because they have been told they would no longer need guardians. Mindy is in her early 40s and CG in his late 30s. I am sure folks marry for sillier reasons than a mutual desire to work and have more freedom.

I mentioned group homes to them because I think living in one would provide a lifestyle that would help prepare them for living in the community. However, CG is dead-set against it. He is afraid he will get stuck in a group home.

Mindy and CG have improved because of the care they receive here. Presently, their mental and other health issues, as well as their diabetes, are under control. Neither has been hospitalized recently. I would hope with the help of in-home care they can maintain the health and well-being they have achieved here.

Since Mindy and CG began planning a future together, their lives are better. Having a goal has allowed them to feel less like prisoners here. They go on outings with a friend of Mindy’s and enjoy themselves.

Recently, Mindy interviewed for a part-time job as a dietary aide at another nursing home. Mindy said she felt strange when she told the interviewer that she lived in a nursing home.

Mindy and CG want to move out when the weather is good. Until then, they continue to plan and look forward to a new life.


Kathleen Mears

Kathleen Mears has been a nursing home resident in Ohio for 20 years. She is an incomplete...